So why, as Christians, are we so agitated about same sex marriage, LGBTQ and the whole gender thing?
We established yesterday that humanity is already a little messed up in the sexuality department – in fact, since the Garden of Eden, we’ve been quite capable of getting ourselves in trouble without the help of LGBTQ advocates. So what’s changed?
…we heterosexual Christians can’t begin to fathom the complex world of LGBTQ lifestyles.
First, let’s take a look at the landscape from the Christian perspective. In bygone days we’ve been quite satisfied to look down our pious noses at those who yield to temptation and fall into adultery, promiscuity, divorce, etc., but these were heterosexual pitfalls. Something most of us could relate to. We would prayerfully counsel those in need of our loving guidance and help them find their way back to righteousness. Or so we liked to tell ourselves. But we didn’t see their weakness or disobedience as being in any way threatening to the Church or to our faith.
Today we’re faced with a very public debate around sexual behaviors that were hitherto hidden behind closed doors and confined to the private lives of a primarily ostracized segment of the population. Definitely out of our comfort zone. We don’t understand these people and, as humans, we’re afraid of people and things we don’t understand. And when we’re afraid, we tend to lash out.
I won’t pretend to understand the minds of lesbian or homosexual people, and I can’t offer any explanation of why they differ from heterosexual people, but they exist nonetheless so I must come to terms with them. I must achieve this without compromising my Christian faith and I must practice Christian love in my dealings with all people, regardless of their sexual orientation, gender identity, or enhanced fashion sense.
I’ve struggled with this in my own extended family. I have a sister-in-law whose stepchild recently engaged in a same-sex marriage. Well, sort of.
We knew this child as a little girl, let’s call her Victoria. She looked like most little girls; cute, dainty, and a little shy. She wasn’t interested in traditionally little-girl things such as dolls and stuff, you know what I mean, but neither did she display any outward masculine tendencies. Victoria grew older, and it wasn’t until she appeared in a local newspaper article about her high school gay and lesbian advocacy group did we suspect she might be leaning in a particular direction. Her parents and stepparents don’t subscribe to any particular religious faith so they lovingly supported her choice and she was free to chart her own path.
Eventually Victoria came out as a lesbian and it wasn’t long before she introduced her girlfriend and lover, lets call her Mabel. Victoria and Mabel moved in together and became that not-talked-about lesbian couple in the family, and the years went by. This is where it gets interesting.
The family came to terms with the fact that both Victoria and Mabel were sexually attracted to women. We held them in our prayers and treated them with polite, if not a little awkward, acceptance. After some time, Victoria made it known that she identified with the male gender and was receiving counselling and treatment to become a man. Henceforth she would be known as Victor. As the hormone treatments took hold, her voice deepened, she grew facial hair and eventually achieved hairier arms than my own. That’s quite an achievement.
Breast-elimination surgery was performed and our little Victoria became Victor – the bearded, hairy-armed man who now works in corrections.
Question time. Was Victoria attracted to other women because she was really a man trapped in a female body, or was she a lesbian who decided it might look more “normal” to live as a man? Was Mabel attracted to Victoria because Mabel was a lesbian? If so, is Mabel now “cured” of her lesbianism because she’s now with Victor?
I have no idea. There was a wedding, and they legally became man and wife. Was that a same sex wedding? Who knows? I wasn’t sure whether to congratulate them on their partnership commitment or on Mabel’s miraculous cure.
I share this story not to belittle Victor and Mabel, but to illustrate how we heterosexual Christians can’t begin to fathom the complex world of LGBTQ lifestyles.
To conclude this installment, let’s just say that we Christians are agitated about same sex marriage, LGBTQ and the whole gender thing because we simply don’t understand and that makes us afraid.
Next time, I’ll talk about how the “gay agenda” is dominating TV, cinema and government, and what that might mean in God’s grand scheme of things.
What are your thoughts on this topic? I know many of you are wondering where I’m going with it. Please leave a comment below and share your opinion.